Over Scheduling Children

Over-Scheduled?

How much is too much?

I think having kids in after-school activities is great! I am all for extra-curricular activities, after all, as a piano teacher, I am one.

There is so much out there these days for kids to do. Dance, Sports, Music, Art, Scouts, Church Activities, Foreign Languages, Theater, and on and on. As parents we want our kids to thrive. We want them to experience what the world has to offer. We want the best for them. But, is there such a thing as too many activities for kids? If there is, how much is too much? And what does this have to do with piano lessons?

I think most of us would agree that it is possible to over-schedule our kids. Here is a quote from an article in Psychology Today:

Alvin Rosenfeld, M.D., a child psychiatrist and author of The Over-Scheduled Child: Avoiding the Hyper-Parenting Trap, believes that enrolling children in too many activities is a nationwide problem.

“Over-scheduling our children is not only a widespread phenomenon, but it’s also how we parent today,” he says. “Parents feel remiss that they’re not being good parents if their kids aren’t in all kinds of activities. Children are under pressure to achieve, to be competitive. I know sixth-graders who are already working on their resume’s so they’ll have an edge when they apply for college.”

Piano Students

As a piano teacher, I advise my student’s parents against putting their kids in too many activities. One reason is simple. Children need time to practice if they are going to learn to play a musical instrument. I have had students who are so busy, that they literally do not have 30 minutes per day to spend practicing. As a result, they can’t learn to play well.

But I believe there are other more important reasons not to shouldn’t over-schedule our kids. Children need time to think, to dream, to imagine…To just be.

Actually, we all need these things. Especially those of us in the arts.

Musicians young and old alike need time to listen to great music, time to be silent, time to improvise. Time to read classic books, stories, and poems. Time to view the masterpieces of the art world.

All Children

Children, in general, need unstructured time outdoors, time to be with friends, time to draw, paint build, create, and play.

Children need time to pretend, role-play and daydream. They need time to run,  build a snowman, lay on the grass and find faces in the clouds. Time to inhale the fragrance of hyacinth, and watch the bumblebee as she flits from flower to flower.

Children desperately need time to talk with parents, grandparents, and relatives who love them. To gain wisdom, here family lore, and stories of days gone by.

At times they need to be silly and laugh at nothing. Other times they need to cry and cleanse, just because.

Both kids and adults need plenty of “unplugged” time as well. This means limiting phone, tablet, video game, and television time.

In Conclusion

So how much is too much when it comes to after-school activities? As a parent, you must use your judgment. As you set up your extra-curricular schedule keep in mind that your child needs some downtime.

Some time to practice the piano, and some time to just be a kid.

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Ready Set Recital!

I am a piano teacher and a parent of kids who studied music. So I have been on both sides of the recital equation and I can tell you which is more stressful…the parent side.

As parents we really want our kids to have a great experience. We love them, we want more than anything for them to be happy and feel good about themselves. We dread the idea that they would crash and burn during a performance and come away upset, embarrassed, or worse crying. So when it’s our child’s turn to get up and show her stuff,

we sit on the edge of our seats, holding our breath, and hoping for the best.

But I am here to tell you recital time doesn’t have to be so stressful. After all, a recital is meant to be an enjoyable experience. A chance for our kids to learn and grow as musicians and as people.

Encourage Your Child to Be Prepared

Talk with your child about the upcoming performance and encourage her to practice and prepare. Make sure that her schedule will allow for practice time even if it means cutting back on some other activities for a few weeks. Assuming that you have a teacher you trust, let your child know that she should follow the teacher’s instructions, this will help ensure that she is ready for the big day.

Put Things Into Perspective

It’s only a recital. I always tell my students we are musicians, not physicians. If we mess up, nothing “bad” will happen. I let them know that every musician makes mistakes from time to time, even me. Yes, we should always strive to do our very best but music is a performance art. An artist paints a picture and it is finished, an author writes a book and it’s done. A pianist must recreate his work every time he performs. Part of the excitement of a live performance is that we never know exactly how it is going to go. Being a musician is the acceptance that sometimes things don’t always go as planned. In these cases we act gracefully and move on.

Don’t Push

Listen to your teacher. If he tells you your child is not ready for an upcoming performance, believe him. It is usually better to sit out a recital than to play and play poorly. A good experience builds confidence and bad experience tears it down. A few bad performances can make performance anxiety ie. stage fright difficult to overcome in the future.

The exception would be a student who is not working hard, over-confident and not taking the situation seriously. In these cases a “wake up call” can sometimes be very effective. I have on occasion (twice in 35 years) allowed a student to play who I felt could have been better prepared. Both times I knew the student extremely well and it turned out to be a valuable learning experience.

Trust Your Gut

You are your child’s parent. You know him best. If you feel that your child has not been practicing, is struggling with the music or is having undo anxiety talk to your teacher. Some teachers require that all students participate in recitals. This is because as teachers we know that having goals and challenges helps students to move forward with their playing. However there are alternatives to solo playing that are less stressful such as playing duets with another student or with the teacher. In some cases a student could participate by handing out programs or helping with refreshments.

Take a Step Back

We all love it when our child does something really well. In every studio there is “that” student. The one who plays really well and impresses everyone. Sometimes this is our child, most of the time it’s not, and that’s OK. Let your child know that you are proud of her no matter how she performs. Celebrate the fact that she is doing something this would scare the life out of most people.

Keep in Mind that Your Child is Still a Student

No matter how old your child is she is still a student which means she is still learning. Seasoned performers learn how to keep the music going no matter what happens. We learn how to practice so that problems are kept to a minimum and how to make a piece sound “perfect” even when it is not. You teacher is working on this with your child but it takes a lot of experience to get to the point where performing is consistently good.

Celebrate Success

If your child has a wonderful recital that’s great! Ask her how she feels about it. Let her enjoy this moment of success, she did the work and she should feel good about having accomplished something. Congratulate yourself as well for taking her to lessons and being supportive as she practiced. Remind her to thank her teacher for the excellent instruction that led to her successful performance.

Have Your Child Evaluate Himself

I always ask my students how THEY felt about a recital after is is over. I ask questions like “what went well?” and “what could you have done differently?” You might ask your child how he felt while he was playing, or was he thinking about during the performance. If you child feels as though he did not play well ask why he thinks this is the case. You might be surprised by the answer.

No matter how the recital goes make sure your child knows that you give him credit for getting up there and playing. If he says he should have been better prepared, remind him there is always next time.

Here are a few more things that you can do to help your child have a positive recital experience.

Arrive on Time

Please get to the recital venue at the time the teacher asks you to be there. If you have any friends or relatives who are coming ask them to do the same. It is very upsetting to students when they are late for a recital or are looking around to see if Grandma is in the audience.

Dress for Success

This is a performance. Please don’t come in super casual clothes or dressed for a soccer match. You would never send you daughter in a gown to the soccer field. Enough said.

Pay Attention

Silence cell phones please pay full attention to every student performing at the recital. Refrain from talking during performances. Plan to stay for the entire performance. It may be tempting to leave early but imagine that your child is the last one performing and everyone else has left before they had a chance to play.

It’s About More Than Just Music

Recitals are amazing learning experiences for anyone who is fortunate enough to participate. Performance gives children the opportunity to prepare something excellent and present it to others in real time. This takes planning, courage and poise something that will serve them well as they meet life’s challenges.

Relax, take a seat and enjoy the recital. This is another milestone in your child’s development. Give yourself a big giant pat on the back for making it possible.

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How To Help Your Kids With Piano Homework

The article was written by Vincent Reina.
Performance from Purchase Conservatory. He then earned a Masters of Arts in Teaching Music from Manhattanville College. Today, Vincent is the co-founder of Music To Your Home, a New York City-based music school. He’s the proud winner of many significant piano competitions, including the Westminster Choir College Artistic Excellence in Piano Award.

 

You have found the perfect piano teacher for your child or children. You probably had to spend a lot of time searching for a reliable piano teacher but your efforts have paid off. You’ve found the perfect one. They’re talented, thoughtful, patient, and experienced. Good teachers aren’t always easy to come by, so when you find one that you can rely on, it’s something to be happy about.

Don’t forget. There will be homework!

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Things Your Traveling Piano Teacher Wants You to Know

Does your piano teacher come to your house? If so you are super lucky. Traveling teachers are very hard to find these days. As a piano parent myself, I have had a few teachers come to my home to teach my sons over the years and I can tell you it was a real convenience. I have also been a traveling teacher myself. Here are some things I think your traveling teacher would like you to know.

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A Piano for Christmas?

My good friend and colleague Susan Blanchard Shaw put together this post for her students. She was doing research in her area in order to help guide her student’s parents in their selection of a piano.

I liked the post so much I asked her if I could repost it here for all of you, and she said yes. Thank you, Susan!

 

A Piano for Christmas?

Around this time of year, many people consider getting a keyboard for someone as a gift or upgrading from the one they have. If you are considering buying a keyboard ( versus an acoustic piano) please consider the following:

 

* The better the instrument, the better the progress. A student playing on an inexpensive keyboard with less than 88 Keys will not fare as well as one who has the full range of notes to play.

 

* Is the keyboard touch sensitive and does it have weighted keys? Most inexpensive keyboards do not. The keys are not weighted and thus do not give a real piano feel. This can lead to improper technique and frustration on the student’s part. A weighted keyboard will feel more like a real piano and will help the student be able to play with dynamic shading.

* Is the keyboard on a steady stand at the proper height? This is vital to proper technique. Students who sit too low, too high can develop issues with muscle tension. This could lead to tendinitis or worse. The student should be able to sit with their arms perfectly parallel to the keys.

* How does it sound? An inexpensive keyboard sounds like it. There is no depth of sound, no real piano feel or sound.

* What kind of pedal does it have? After the first year of lessons, pedal technique is usually introduced. A cheap square plastic pedal will not give the desired results and usually skates across the floor.

* How many notes of polyphony are there? Without getting into too much detail, the higher the number, the better. If you are going to play fast, advanced music, notes will blip or clip out on lower than 64 note polyphony. Imagine playing a piece and half the notes are silent. Then again, if you are an advanced player I suggest an acoustic piano.

So which keyboards are preferred? There are many keyboards in all prices ranges, with 88 weighted keys, solid stand, bench, and pedal. Here are my recommendations:

Yamaha P45- not as good as I thought for the money. $499 with a base. To get the good base and pedal would be an additional $150.

Casio Privia PX160. I liked this a lot. Great feel and sound, not a lot of bells and whistles. $499 for just the keyboard. But a site called kraftmusic.com has a bundle that includes the furniture type stand, triple pedal board, bench and headphones for 599.99 with free shipping.

Casio Privia PX 350. Above the 160. More bells and whistles. Better piano sound. Same feel as the 160. Piano only $599. With furniture stand, triple pedal board, nice bench with storage, dust cover and headphones. Kraftmusic.com. Has the best price at $879.

Now that is pricey. Once you get up there you may want to look at acoustic pianos.

Next up Yamaha DGX 660. Lots of bells and whistles including the ability to record. $799 at kraft music includes furniture stand, bench, headphones and a single ( not triple) pedal.

There are of course more expensive digital pianos out there ( Yamaha Clavinova).

If you are in the market for an acoustic I can do some research as well. A good acoustic will last 100 years if well maintained and will not lose value. There are quite a few nice ones on Craigslist. Anywhere from $350 on up

I would avoid the Williams pianos. The touch is very stiff and the sound is not great. I had to play one for a show and by
The end my hands were hurting.

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How to Tell Your Piano Teacher Goodbye

 

I am the last person who wants anyone to quit piano lessons…ever! But I am the first one to admit it happens. Maybe your child just isn’t into it anymore, and you’re tired of fighting with her about practicing. Perhaps your schedule is overloaded and something has got to give. A job loss or financial setback may also cause you to feel as though you have to stop lessons. It could be that you want to continue lessons but you think it’s time for a new teacher.

How Piano Teachers Think

OK, I am not a psychic. I don’t know exactly how or what every teacher thinks but I know enough teachers personally to tell you that we hate it when a student leaves. Yes, business is Business but piano teaching is more than that for most of us. Speaking for myself I try not to. take it personally but it still feels “icky” especially if I have been working with your child for a while. If you have carefully considered all of the options and have decided it’s time for a change there are some ways to make the situation a little easier.

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Why do We Need a Piano and What Type Should We Get?

Students need a piano because they need to be able to practice at home. Learning to play any musical instrument is a big undertaking that depends upon regular lessons and daily practice. It takes practice to understand musical concepts and to acquire the coordination and motor skills it takes to become a pianist.

What Should We Get?

There are basically two types of pianos Acoustic and Digital. First, let’s look at Acoustic Pianos.

Acoustic Pianos are made of wood and have steel strings. An acoustic piano a great choice if you have space in your home to accommodate one and if you can afford it. Concert artists always play on fine acoustic pianos and almost all pianists prefer them. Acoustic pianos need periodic tuning, however, this is a minimal expense. If carefully chosen and properly cared for an acoustic piano is an investment that will last a lifetime.

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The Five Piece Summer Piano Practice Challenge

I insist that my students take lessons and practice over the summer because students who study and practice over the summer turn out to be the most successful students. Summer is a time when students can devote more time to the piano without the pressures of school and homework. In my many years of teaching, (I stopped counting after 30) I have seen that students who continue piano study throughout the year stick with piano longer and play better than those that take breaks from playing.

One of the ways I keep my students motivated to practice, is to institute a “Summer Piano Practice Challenge”. While summer is traditionally a time when advanced students tackle Sonatas and longer repertoire, I ask my beginning and intermediate student to try to learn five fun, short pieces. Continue reading

Seven Ways to Establish Good Piano Practice Habits

No one learns to play the piano without practicing: it simply can’t be done. A thirty or even sixty-minute lesson once per week just won’t cut it. Students need to practice at home. Musical concepts take time to grasp and the body movement required to play must be carefully repeated on a consistent basis in order to develop the strength and coordination it takes to play the piano.

I am often asked by parents how much practicing their child should be doing. For my youngest preschool students, I recommend five to ten minutes a day. As a student grows older and becomes more advanced, the length of practice time will gradually increase. Ideally, practicing would take place each and every day. While I know that sticking to a strict practice regimen is a real challenge for many of my students, I recommend that they try to come as close to this as possible.

Seven Ways to Establish Good Piano Practice Habits.

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Music Reading is Fundamental

When I was a little kid growing up in New York there was a TV campaign running called RIF. A little character would interrupt our Saturday morning Cartoons to remind us that “Reading is Fundamental”. Looking back, I’m pretty sure the NEA or some other teacher related group was conspiring to get us to turn off the television and do more reading. I didn’t think much about it at the time I was busy with Bugs and Elmer Fudd. Luckily my mother made me go to school and learn how to read. And that was a good thing, because you know what? Reading really is fundamental.

Reading opens the mind in ways that that would take volumes to express. Most importantly, reading allows the reader to gather and interpret information for himself. In this way, he becomes an independent reasoning human being.

Music Reading is Fundamental

Music reading for the aspiring musician is fundamental too. Can you learn to play music without reading music? Certainly, but you are going to be severely limited. Just like you would in school without language reading.

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When to Hold Off on Piano Lessons

When to Hold Off on Piano Lessons

What! A post on when not to take piano lessons? If you been following me for a while you know that I think that music education is the best thing ever for people! Especially piano education. There are hundreds of reasons to take up the piano, it’s awesome! Ninety eight percent of students start piano and do just fine, however there are times when when I recommend that parents hold off on piano lessons. Continue reading

10 Things You Might Not Think of That Will Make Your Piano Really Teacher Happy

The number one goal for piano teachers, parents and students should be to give students the lifelong gift of being able to play the piano. Assuming that you have found a piano teacher that you really like for your child, a teacher you trust and respect, there are some unusual things you can do to help make the family-teacher relationship a great and long lasting one. Here are 10 things you might not think of that will make your piano teacher really happy. Continue reading

The Invasion of the Piano Snatchers

alienigenas_80088 key imposters are taking over piano studios and homes all over the world. They look like pianos, they sound strangely “pianoesque”. They are cheaper, lighter, never need tuning. They are brought to life by bolts of electricity. Open one up and you will see a maze of wires and circuits. These musical aliens are everywhere and the scariest fact of all is that no one seems to know the difference! Almost no one, that is. Continue reading

10 Ways to Help Your Child Succeed at the Piano

shutterstock_17243083Hearing your child play music is one of the most wonderful sounds in the world! Imagine your son or daughter sitting down at the piano and playing beautifully. Classical music, Jazz, music for holidays and celebrations. Envision you child really playing, really enjoying the piano for a lifetime. What better gift could you give? Here are 10 ways to make that dream come true. Continue reading

Piano Lessons? Go Ahead, You Know You Want To!

boy playing pianoSchool is starting and you may be thinking of signing your child up for piano lessons. Maybe you play yourself and you know how awesome it is or maybe you don’t but you would love for your child to learn. There are many great reasons for your child to learn to play but there may be some things that are holding you back. Let’s take a look at those reservations one by one and how to overcome them, so you can feel comfortable and enroll your child in piano lessons. Continue reading

Teachers, Parents and Studio Policies

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Studio Policy- An annoying list of rules and expectations that a piano teacher would rather not bother with, usually presented as quickly as possible at the start of lessons, which students and parents may or may not be asked to sign and may or may not adhere to depending on how forcefully the teacher enforces said rules and expectations. The official Studio Policy is often printed on disappearing paper or featured on an obscure page of a Studio website. Either way, nobody likes them. Continue reading

10 Ways to Tell When Your Child is Not Really Practicing the Piano

Before we begin the count-down, let me set a little scene. I am a piano teacher mom so we have a studio in our home. It’s a room that has my Kawai baby grand piano and all of my other music stuff. It’s where I teach all of my students. My boys also like to “practice” in the studio. Which works out just fine. I have always encouraged my boys to practice their instruments. Continue reading

Why Summer Piano Lessons are a Great Idea

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School will soon be out, summer will soon be here, what does this mean for piano teachers and students?

Summer is finally coming. Great news for kids and school teachers to be sure. But for parents?? Summer can be a mixed blessing. While the pressure of school work being off of children and families is a relief, trying to organize vacations and keep kids busy over the summer can be a challenge. Life for parents is so demanding! It’s tempting to just want to take a break from all of the activities that take place during the school year.  I am often asked if students should take piano lessons over the summer
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Sorry kids, Piano Lessons Make You Smarter

I found this article on Forbes it is very interesting.It’s sure to be music to parents’ ears: After nine months of weekly training in piano or voice, new research shows young students’ IQs rose nearly three points more than their untrained peers

The Canadian study lends support to the idea that musical training may do more for kids than simply teach them their scales–it exercises parts of the brain useful in mathematics, spatial intelligence and other intellectual pursuits
.“With music lessons, because there are so many different facets involved–such as memorizing, expressing emotion, learning about musical interval and chords–the multidimensional nature of the experience may be motivating the [IQ] effect,” said study author E. Glenn Schellenberg E. Glenn Schellenberg , of the University of Toronto at Mississauga. Continue reading